Feeling grateful can be a challenge. Even with a satisfying and well-paying career it easy to get used to a certain level of success. As we move throughout our careers whether it be in the public or private sectors, finding happiness can oftentimes be a struggle.
How do you define success? Our view of success is often dictated by those around you. We all work and live within a given framework. There are those at the top and those at the bottom. We often model our view of success within that set of given boundaries.
As a busy professional with a lot of responsibilities it seems as if the list of chores is never ending. Everyone has only twenty-four hours. From twenty-four hours, subtract time for sleep, work, our commute, and we are left with only a handful of hours to be productive with personal pursuits or additional activities we enjoy.
How do you define yourself? Have you ever been around someone who instead of being focused on who they are today, define themselves by what they once were?
Have you ever been in a situation when you had just your essential ‘stuff’ and felt happier because of it? Maybe you were on a camping trip or a long business trip. Once you adjust to having minimal stuff on hand, there is a joy that comes from having just what you need and nothing else. Does everything you own have a purpose? Is that high-dollar item you bought last year still getting used? I can only partially answer ‘yes’ to those questions but wish to do better in the future.
In a consumer society, we are surrounded by stuff. Seriously, have you ever looked around your home and thought about all the stuff you have? Have you ever gone over to a friend’s house and thought, “Man, they have a lot of stuff!” Some people may even have so much stuff that they pay a company every month so that they can store ‘extra’ stuff.
My wife and I do a pretty good job at cleaning out our house from time to time. (more…)
I generally seek a life of balance. I find great value in knowing that my life is more than just going back and forth to work. Some of the happiest times of my life have usually been where there was a healthy balance between work, play, family, fun, and hobbies. It is within this delicate balance that a calmness is achieved.
Calmness being a mostly relative term. My wife and I both have demanding full-time jobs and equally share in raising our 8-year-old daughter. Oh yah, and we have a dog. So calmness still involves a little bit of mess and frustration on most given days.
But overall life balance is good.
Are short periods of time with no balance needed to achieve growth?
But Really, About Me.
I am a father. I am a husband. I am an Army Veteran, I am a 6 time (Working on number 7) Ironman/Long Course triathlon finisher. I am an off the charts Introvert (ISTJ). I have spent a career working for the Department of Defense both in and out of uniform. While in uniform I was an Army Officer. Tanks and Armored Vehicles were my specialty.
I currently hold a number of professional certifications in Program and Project Management. I have extensive experience leading small and large teams. I’m good at leading, following, or working on solo projects. A career of managing risks, establishing organizational goals, and executing it all.
I am a lifelong runner. I’ve run for fun, run for work, and run for training for as long as I can remember.
Seven years ago I dove into the sport of Triathlon. I enjoy the training more than the racing. Triathlon has been one of the best decisions I ever made. It brought me back into focus and challenged me in so many new and fun ways. It gave me a new spark to life that I was looking for. I am not someone who can just go back and forth to work and then come home to watch TV. That is never enough for me.
I have run numerous Half Marathons with a personal best of 1:34 (h:mm).
I have completed 4 Full Distance Ironman races (140.6 Miles of swim bike run) and 2 Half Ironman races (70.3)
My personal best Ironman time is 10:57 which included a run time of 3:54. Hitting a sub-4 hour Ironman run was the culmination of a 4-year goal. Best run of my life!
I have been tracking my financial numbers since I was 6 when I had a stack of singles in a box with a count listed on the top of the box. Every time I got some new money I would cross off the old number and write down the new number. I am a lifelong saver, although it hasn’t always been easy. Even though I do have big number goals that I track on a fancy spreadsheet, what I enjoy mostly about finance is the peace it brings to me and my family. A life in balance.
Happily married with one kid and a dog. We have such a great family. What I like most about them is they put up with me.
I cherish this most of all. I am the happiest when things are in balance. When any one thing (including fun) starts to dominate, I start wishing for more balance. I love efficiency as I think it contributes to the balance – saving time for the ‘other’ things you can be doing
A Quick Story
Back in 2012 I was training for Ironman Florida. It was my 2nd Long Course Triathlon and I had high hopes. I had done nearly all of my swim training as Open Water Swims. I think I swam in a pool 3 times the entire season. I was very comfortable in the open water and really comfortable in my wet suit. I wanted a strong swim and had even done mental exercises of seeing myself running up on the beach looking strong.
As I headed to the beach you could hear the waves crashing. Thank you, Hurricane Sandy!! It was still pretty dark out so I couldn’t see the water yet but knew it wasn’t calm. I, however, was feeling pretty calm and just continued to stand there sipping on my Gatorade. I took a Power Gel at 6:30 am, put on my wet suit and headed down to the beach. It was clear that the water had not settled down as I had hoped. The pro-gun went off, which then really helped give some scale to what we were in for. Looked like little people swimming through the land of big swells. With about a minute until the gun went off it seemed like people started walking into the water. By the time the gun went off at 7:00 am, I was thigh high in the water, right of the buoy line, maybe 10 rows back. (more…)
Welcome to my blog! There are countless blogs out there and you have chosen to spend a few moments here. Thank you. In the broadest sense of each word I plan on discussing everything from fitness, finance, life balance struggles, and commenting on the daily challenges of life as a professional, husband, and father. Creating a place where high performing, high-achieving individuals can discuss ways to make it through their daily grinds all while seeking to achieve a balance of professional and personal passions.
I seek to have balance in my life, efficiency in all things, and a sense of calm and confidence as I walk through my daily life.
Life is for the taking.